I learned from my wife that when a cat tries to grab you with its claws the last thing you want to do is pull away. Pull away and the claws dig in to your skin, however, push inward far enough towards the cat’s body and the claws release. This lesson is important because cats are crazy, one second they are just loving being touched and the next they are trying to tear your hand apart.
Now I am not one to freely admit learning a lesson from a cat, unless that lesson involves outsmarting the cat, such as this one. But here is the lesson I learned
When someone you care about hurts you from what seems to be out of nowhere your initial reaction may be to pull back. Well actually, the initial reaction may be to scratch back, and the second to pull back, but neither will be very useful because that scratch may not have been as intentional as it seems. I am sure you can remember a time or two when you did something similar. I am also sure that when you did there was something else going on with you.
Sometimes when someone you love hurts you, even when you know their true desire is to love you, you are in a unique moment. A door has been opened, but you can only enter if you push forward rather then pull back. Unfortunately, this does not guarantee you will not get scratched a time or two, but the opportunity for joy and connection is there for the brave lover willing to run the gauntlet.
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